Theos-Talk Archives (January 1997 Message tl00664)

Richard writes:

>Some very good points.  Just for clarification, however, what did you mean by
>your last sentence?  Initially, I thought you meant, "one wonders why they
>[young women] think men are the way to go [to find true happiness].

That is what I meant.  How about "one wonders why they think men are the
'exclusive' way to go?"  Not sure if that makes it any clearer, though.

>Then, I
>started to reflect that perhaps you meant "one wonders why they think men
>[rather than other women] are the way to go."

No, but that's an interesting interpretation!

>If you intended the former, I am wondering whether you believe that there is
>~any~ possible true happiness that a heterosexual woman might find in a
>relationship with a man.  (Here, of course, I do not mean the ~only~ or ~most
>important~ happiness.)

Love between two people - male and female, male and male, female and female
- can bring a profound, fulfilling, and enduring happiness.  So sing the
poets - and I concur.

>If you intended the latter (which doesn't seem so likely), do you believe
>that this would be a viable alternative for heterosexual women as well?

Probably not - if you are speaking in the mating sense.  I am one of those
who believe that gender preferences are biological(although it would make no
difference to me if it was a matter of choice).  We love who we love.
Personally, I suspect, for a heterosexual woman, being intimate with another
woman would probably not be a viable alternative.

>Just curious.

Just curious?  Hmmmm.  I got the impression from your post that, really, you
are dying to know whether or not I am a lesbian.  Come on, admit it,
Richard.  Well, shocking as it sounds, not all feminists are lesbians, or
man-haters. No, in this incarnation, I am in the heterosexual mode.  Let us
just say. . .my male-bashing is a form a merriment, and I prefer my men on
the side.  

Now, are you ever going to answer my "horse" question?


Kym