Theos-Talk Archives (January 1999 Message tl00031)

Dear Dallas,

You wrote:

>Why not consider that God is inside of us, and that we can seek
>ITS help and guidance at times of difficulty - not a miracle,
but
>a friendly help - such as the "Voice of Conscience" or the
>"Intuition" can give ?

I understand, I think, what you are saying - it kind of reminds
me of "Pascal's Wager" (where it is better to believe in God
rather than not because if God does exist and one has lived
according to God's Laws, all will be well; and even if God turns
out not to exist, it won't matter anyway and you would have, for
the benefit of humanity, lived a good and compassionate life).
It makes sense.
I'm still wiggly about the philosophy of Karma - still too many
holes in it for me, but I suppose that shall consist throughout
my current lifetime.
Thank you for your kind and gentle responses to my questions.
Having someone take the time to listen to you - whether agreement
is reached or not - is rare and always welcome.
I have one more question (for you and all on this list):
I have just lost a most precious loved one due to sudden death.
I have read that grieving for one who has passed over can
actually hinder their journey - that the grief of those 'left
behind' can serve as a kind of tie to the earthly realm for the
deceased one.  In one way, this makes sense, but in another way,
it seems unfair (that word again!) that one who has passed on can
be at the 'mercy' of those who grieve and rage against the death.
Does the grief and pain of those left behind affect the one who
has passed on?  If so, in what way?  I am interested in any
thoughts or comments on this particular theory.
It seems so hard not to grieve, and, not to mention how guilty a
loved one could end up feeling if they knew they were "holding
back" the deceased loved one!
It seems we must grieve - some of us harder than others.  Maybe
we need to be taught "how" to grieve rightly. . .but it is so,
so, so difficult.
By the way, I know that people on this list are compassionate
enough to offer me words of condolence, but it is not necessary -
besides, I'm one of those who gets weird at mushy stuff. . .got
it?

Kym