Theos-Talk Archives (January 1999 Message tl00021)

Dear Dallas,

You wrote:

>Why not consider that God is inside of us, and that we can seek
>ITS help and guidance at times of difficulty - not a miracle, but
>a friendly help - such as the "Voice of Conscience" or the
>"Intuition" can give ?

I understand, I think, what you are saying - it kind of reminds me of
"Pascal's Wager" (where it is better to believe in God rather than not
because if God does exist and one has lived according to God's Laws, all
will be well; and even if God turns out not to exist, it won't matter
anyway and you would have, for the benefit of humanity, lived a good and
compassionate life).  It makes sense.

I'm still wiggly about the philosophy of Karma - still too many holes in it
for me, but I suppose that shall consist throughout my current lifetime.

Thank you for your kind and gentle responses to my questions.  Having
someone take the time to listen to you - whether agreement is reached or
not - is rare and always welcome.

I have one more question (for you and all on this list):

I have just lost a most precious loved one due to sudden death.  I have
read that grieving for one who has passed over can actually hinder their
journey - that the grief of those 'left behind' can serve as a kind of tie
to the earthly realm for the deceased one.  In one way, this makes sense,
but in another way, it seems unfair (that word again!) that one who has
passed on can be at the 'mercy' of those who grieve and rage against the
death.  Does the grief and pain of those left behind affect the one who has
passed on?  If so, in what way?  I am interested in any thoughts or
comments on this particular theory.

It seems so hard not to grieve, and, not to mention how guilty a loved one
could end up feeling if they knew they were "holding back" the deceased
loved one!

It seems we must grieve - some of us harder than others.  Maybe we need to
be taught "how" to grieve rightly. . .but it is so, so, so difficult.

By the way, I know that people on this list are compassionate enough to
offer me words of condolence, but it is not necessary - besides, I'm one of
those who gets weird at mushy stuff. . .got it?

Kym