Theos-Talk Archives (January 1997 Message tl00777)

liesel f. deutsch writes:
>It's not at all clear. I'm not particularly attracted to a guy because he
>seems to be or is doing me a favor. That sets me a wondering for why he
>wants to do me a favor, especially since I'm not pretty anymore. 

This sounds like paranoia.  (I'm not trying to insult you, I experience the 
same feelings when it comes to women).  I know that I am paraniod.  It comes 
along with a history of people who manipulate you until you are of no use to 
them anymore.  I've forgiven everyone who has done such things to me, (and who 
are still doing them), however, I could never forget.  Therefore, I am 
paranoid.  I think perhaps paranoia could be a flip side to innocence.  I 
could really twist this around and say that the most paranoid people in the 
world are the wisest, but I won't.  That would fall under the same lines as 
Baka-do, my recently invented martial arts technique.

I prefer men who can talk about something not quite as inane as the weather, 
such as politics, or foreign affairs, or Picasso, or the latest budding 
company to buy shares of. He also has to demonstrate that he has a bit of 
insight &
>compassion. The only favor I might look upon favorably is if he comes with a
>pair of concert tickets, but without strings attached. 
>
>Liesel

There are always strings attached.  For instance, if the guy brings the 
tickets, then surely he wants you to go with HIM, not someone else.  String 
number one.  (shiver)

BTW, I think I'm looking for the same situation (relationship, whatever).  
However, when it comes to getting what I want, I always want more, or I don't 
want it anymore.  I think it is a male thing.  I wish I could get rid of it.

Cheers, beautiful.  :)
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The Triaist